It's Hard To Say Goodbye

It's Hard To Say Goodbye 

There's something in your eyes that's far too revealing 
Why must it be like this a love without feelin'
Something is wrong with you I know
I see it in your eyes 
Believe me when I say 
It's gonna be okay 
I told you from the start I won't be demanding 
I won't be demanding 
If you have a change of heart I'll be understanding 
I'll be understanding 
When love becomes a broken heart and dreams begin to die 
Believe me when I say 
We'll work it out some way 
I'll never try to hold you back 
I wouldn't try controlling you 
If it's what you want 
It's what I want 
I want what's best for you 
And if there's something else that you're looking for 
I'll be the first to help you try 
Believe me when I say 
It's hard to say goodbye 
We've lost that loving touch we used to feel so much 
I try to hide the truth that's in my eyes
The love without feeling 
But when I feel we're not in love, I know I'm losing you 
Believe when I say 
I'll never try to hold you back
IWe've lost that loving touch we used to feel so much 
I try to hide the truth that's in my eyes
The love without feeling 
But when I feel we're not in love, I know I'm losing you 
Believe when I say 
We'll work it out some way
I'll never try to hold you back 
I wouldn't try controlling you
If it's what you want
It's what I want 
I want what's best for you 
And if there's something else that you're looking for 
I'll be the first to help you try 
Believe me when I say
It's hard to say goodbye 
Don't say goodbye
If it's what you want
It's what I want 
I want what's best for you 
I'll never try to hold you back
I wouldn't try controlling you 
If it's what you want
It's what I want 
I want what's best for you 
And if there's something else that you're looking for 
I'll be the first to help you try 
Believe me when I say
It's hard to say goodbye
I'll never try to hold you back
I wouldn't try controlling you 
If it's what you want 
It's what I want 
I want what's best for you 
And if there's something else that you're looking for 
I'll be the first to help you try

Understanding Each Other

Understanding Each Other

Understanding between individuals is a basic requirement in any relationship. For people in love, it becomes even more important as it forms a major chunk in the relationship. Understanding could be achieved by both the individuals by developing trust, appreciation and patience for the other partner. A few other ways could be: 

Making you partner feel important

Most of the times, people are buried in tensions and responsibilities that they take their relationship for granted. In the process sometimes one person feels a sense of neglect. To avoid such situations, you could make your partner realize his/her importance everyday by addressing small things such as: *Complimenting your partner. For example "Wow did you lose weight?" 
*Letting him/ her take the initiative in certain chores of the house
*Asking their opinion in matters which might be of importance to both Conceding at times


You are probably right

This statement can bury many a battles even before they begin. Most of the times, people in a relationship try to hold their side of the arguments to exercise their dominance in the relationship. This does not help too much as there remain a few feelings which keep smoldering for a long time. This allows you to appease her and still leave yourself an out if she is completely off base. So, by acceding on a few occasions you can actually win the respect of your partner apart from weathering a threat to your relationship! 

"I was wrong."

Generally men hate to say this. Many times they could be right for what they argue but it is observed that women have a certain bent of mind which makes them think they are right So save yourself some grief and apologize now so you can get moving in your relationship! Keeping the spark alive in your relationship Along with understanding it is important that the element of boredom is kept out a relationship. It could be dine by paying attention to little details which your partner likes generally. This enhances the degree of understanding between the two partners too! If this is not done, then a sense of monotony sets in which could endanger the relationship. To avoid such a scenario, you could do little important things such as:

*Remembering your first date
*Taking your partner to his /her favorite hangout place occasionally
*Savor moments which are priceless to both the individuals in a relationship


Developing a sense of trust

This is one element which becomes more and more important in a relationship as time goes by. It also forms one of the cornerstones when it comes to understanding between two individuals. One must look to respect the decisions of the other partner and make the person feel that he /she is an integral part of the whole process. This develops and generates respect between the two individuals.

Problems in love

Problems in love 

Numerous reasons could be cited which lead to misunderstanding between individual in a relationship. It could be monetary, emotional or even physical. One could look at the misunderstandings from two perspectives- male and female.

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Male perspective

Several reasons could be attributed by the man in the relationship, some of them could be: Adequate communication It is considered that women's behavior is more emotional than men's. Although it would be fair to say that even the most emotional women are sometimes simply not quite self-confident. Men hardly use the female language of emotions and for them learning a Latin or Greek would be easier to learn as compared to the former. This gap in communication provokes most of acute problems and conflicts. 

Lack of understanding

To bridge the communication gap that sets in individuals, it is important for the man to gain some understanding of emotions. Maybe women at times use an emotional approach to communicate which is misunderstood by men as encroachment. So if a man wants to become proficient in emotional aspect, it is important to learn to understand your feelings. 

Blaming each other

Many a times, men think that women are encroaching too much by grazing some emotional aspect. Though the woman might be trying to make them comfortable, it could be misinterpreted! This could result in the two individuals blaming each other. 

Being compassionate

Expressing compassion resolves a great deal of miscommunication. At time it becomes imperative for men to shed their rationalistic thinking and get into the shoes of a woman! That mean. They need to be more patient and lend an ear to their partner's maladies irrespective how trivial it may be.

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Female perspective



A man is not as bad as you think!

The emotional communication of men differs from women as a result women need to realize that they might not get the same degree of intimacy from men when it comes to talking. 

Let him boast

Women should take men boating about their success at workplace or other things in their stride. Women generally perceive boasting as a sign of egoistic male nature while in reality it might not be the case! That is why you should take this character trait as a matter of course. 

Give him his space

Men always need more space, than women do. Women might find this to be dictatorial in nature. Women should remember that when a man interferes into your private space he is bound by his habit of exercising a certain degree of authority. 

Money related issues

Money related issues crop up when there exist some form of imbalance between the two individuals. This could also be augmented by ego and lack of communication. Issues which go unnoticed acquire gargantuan stature once marriage happens. Some of the situations could be: 

Difference in priorities

One's choice of a house could be negated with another's choice of a holiday 

Possessiveness towards income

If the individuals become conscious of who is earning and how much then that could lead to ripples in the relationship. Prudence is good but understanding is more

Love After Marriage

Love After Marriage 

After marriage it is generally observed that the bond between the individuals strengthen and grown stronger as time goes by. Once when individuals start spending time together, they also understand each other's need and being more committed to each other's feeling and sentiments. Physical intimacy or love comes before marriage but true unconditional love sets in only after marriage. Even years after marriage people continue to love each other and this is love becomes more dense and strong because of their sense of understanding for each other.

A few things which happen to love after marriage are: 

Commitment: 

Love gets enamored in commitment after marriage. It also gets interwoven with trust and empathy and once this begins to happen then true love begins to grown in your relationship. It is then that you begin to gradually make sense of your relationship and figure out that you want to be together forever 

More understanding: 

Any relationship grows when you give time and effort to it. Love after marriage starts only when you think the way your spouse think. You should be his or her mirror image. So unconditional love comes about once you develop a higher sense of understanding of the like and dislikes of your partner. 

Adapting to the culture:

True love happens when you mould yourself according to your partner's interest, family values and background. This could be based on her culture and background from which she comes. True and unconditional real love comes when the partners accede and concede for each other by developing a respect and a broad understanding for each others cultures and background. 

Understanding responsibilities and commitments: 

Love after marriage gets draped in commitments and responsibilities. The degree of commitment increases after marriage. One could say that after individuals gradually align their interests based on their partner's commitments. That apart, you become answerable to your partner for the actions and deeds which in turn induces a sense of responsibilities in the acts of the individuals. This also shows the degree of caring which one individual has for another. These decisions could vary from your personal to your professional sphere. 

Family & Expectations:

after marriage partners begin to have a sense of expectation as far reading a family is concerned. To take the unconditional love to the next pedestal there is a need felt by the couple to have kids. The family bears testimony to the unconditional love between the partners and the trust and faith which they share with each other.

Sex in love marriages are special for it is reminiscent of not only the physical intimacy shared by the couple but the entire experience of coming to together, from falling in love to marriage. 

It has been discovered by Italian scientists that the biochemical state of falling in love is similar to obsessive compulsive disorder. The yearning of couples to be together and learn about each other in intimate detail is overwhelming. They tend to grab every opportunity to show affection and get as close as possible to one another. During this period sex can be very exciting. Difference between casual sex and sex in love 

*There's still some of the mystery of casual sex and also some risk. 

*The difference is that sex is more mutual when we've fallen in love.

*In a love marriage, sex is more than mere physical intimacy.

*It's about giving and sharing ourselves physically and emotionally. As well as sexual satisfaction, we can expect to feel emotional fulfillment 

*Sex in a relationship after love has its own set of positives such as gaining knowledge about the opposite partner. It also helps develop a mutual sense of trust between the partners. Individuals feel more open to try different means to spice up their sexual desires. This would not be possible if the distances are not narrowed between them which could happen only when they trust each other! 

*Casual sex has its own set of advantages and disadvantages. There is a certain sense of risk and mystery involved in it. Individuals barely have any knowledge and understanding of each other and their respective background and what they seek is an urge to satiate their sexual hunger

*There is a certain sense of urgency and the focus is primarily on physical satisfaction of desires. The experience is mechanical in nature and does not involve any love making aspects. Individuals look to get done with the act of making love in a haste and instead of prolonging it and understanding the partner Sex in a relationship which sprouts from love offers an opportunity to the individuals to grow together and become great lovers. It may not be possible to recapture the mystery of casual sex but there's a much higher chance of all-round fulfillment. 

When a relationship matures, sex matures. You now have the advantage of knowing each other well. Fear of rejection is replaced with trust and security. This allows you to move into a stage of experimentation and mutual growth. You can take the time to fine-tune your skills as a lover.

Love Before Marriage

Love Before Marriage 

Love before marriage is a fruit which is ripening. It needs to be nurtured properly so that it ripens in the best manner possible. All the same, there are chances of its being exposed to a few dangers too but then chances are that these things help it to become a better fruit. 

Love before marriage has many features which make it unique, some of them are: 

You are still single: 

Before marriage, even though you are into a relationship, you are still single. You need to fend for yourself emotionally and physically! Your partner may be around you to comfort and spend time but you perceive the world as a single. Although you slowly begin to get into a mindset of a married person, you are still not there completely. 

Change in lifestyle:

Before marriage, a person is his /her own self. He/ she does not change the way of living because the institution of marriage has no binding on the individual. In other words, the person is a free bird, free to act according to his/her will and to do what he /she feels is in the best of his/her interest. 

Decision making:

Decision making is entirely a one person's job although you might be dating seriously. This means that even the smallest of decisions would be taken by you and you would hold the reins completely of what is good and bad for you. The other side of this issue is the impact of your decision making does not have an impact on your partner for you are not into a relationship as yet. 

Pamper yourself:

Before marriage you have the distinction of pampering yourself by doing things which you like the most. This could be wearing your favorite set of clothes or hanging out at your favorite restaurant. You do care for your partner with whom you are into a relationship but that element of sharing does not exist. 

Commitment:

The degree of commitment is also less before marriage. One could say that pre marriage is the period that people are into the process of committing themselves to their partner's interests. That apart, you still answerable to yourself for your actions and deeds and no one else is involved in the picture. These decisions could vary from your personal to your professional sphere. The commitments one has also do not undergo a great deal of change and remain more or less confined to the interests of the individual as against after marriage. Physical intimacy: Intimacy does exist but you do not share a part of your self emotionally and physically with another person. Generally people are in the process of getting this act together before marriage.

What are Factors of Real Love?

What are Factors of Real Love?

All of us have opinions on love, but very few can define it. This is considered as a universal and inconsistent emotion and thus is difficult to define. 

Attraction

If we consider the beginning of a feeling of love, it usually starts when some one turns you on. And you get turned on because you like some observable qualities in that person. This is the physical attraction you feel for a person. This is a stage where most people, make wrong decisions. It is because they can't differentiate between physical attraction and love. 

Compatibility 

Then begins the journey. When you start knowing the person more, then you tend to realize that a person comes with both the positive things and the negative attributes as well. This is the time when people weight their compatibility. 

Time as a factor 

Sometimes our intellectual abilities can be a hindrance in selecting a partner. love for some is considered as a factor that cannot be assessed by our intellect. Time is the best way to analyze if a relationship would work or not. So you can answer simple questions like Do I want to spend the rest of my life with this person or not? 

Science and love 

The latest trend of making sure two people are really in love with each other is by the use of something called Biomatching. For this you don't have to follow the traditional method, which believes in the test of time. If you look for potential partners at random, there is a chance that you just feel like you love a person and would miss the actual feeling of being in love.

What is Real Love?

What is Real Love?


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never fails. —I Corinthians 
This piece of poetry describes the exact characteristics of real love. These qualities can be found in all truly loving relationships. The problem is actually with trying to search “love” in our daily lives. It is often found that most of us don’t look for these characteristics in a person. Instead, we look at physical appearance, wealth and fame. These are not the qualities of true love. 

What is real love? 

Real love could be said to extend beyond mere infatuation or crush which individuals develop at some point in time. It is a concept which encompasses the feeling of 'infatuation' and requires a higher degree of understanding and application! 

A few things could be said to define a loose definition for real love although it may vary from one individual to another. 

It is about the right person 

Real love could be said to be about finding the right person. In other words, falling in love may not be real love. For your likes and dislikes may not align with your 'other half'. As a result, one could say that real love is finding the right person in which case there is a kind of equilibrium between the two individuals. 

Knowing the other person 

Real love requires a good and thorough understanding of the opposite person you are getting involved with. This is a tad different from the 'falling in love' and getting carried away. Such feelings diffuse after a while and it boils to the compatibility aspect between two individuals. 

Knowing about the person's personality and character are so important. To identify the characteristics you could look at the aspects which draw you to a guy or a girl. If the list is long then you know that you know a lot about him /her and if the list is short then probably you need to know the person a bit more! This aspect would surface a quintessential one with regard to the sustenance of relationship. So if you were to get into a relationship with someone, it is always better to know him better! 



It would be fair to say that sex is a part of the whole experience called 'real love'. But to identify sex as a determinant would be a miscalculation as this aspect is momentary in nature. As time goes by, this aspect too would lose steam and what would remain is the foundation- that of understanding and appreciating each other's emotions. 

Love is a commitment. 

Although feelings will accompany love, and although sex will be a part of marriage, a lasting, you cannot base a healthy relationship on these things. In the long and winding journey of life, infatuation, sex and other such details will slowly vaporize and all that would be left in the relationship is commitment and understanding between the partners. 

There are several other factors which could go into the definition of 'real love' but then again they would vary from person to person!

Friendship and Love

Friendship and Love

What is friendship, and love? Is there a difference? These are two of the questions that have always intrigued most people. Unfortunately, precise and concise answers to such a question cannot be given. The least that can be said about these two is that both complement each other and that friendship is a subset of love! 

Friendship 

So what exactly is friendship? How do we define it? Why do we call a person our friend? When do we call someone a very good friend? These are questions to which answers can be sought but then they are case specific. 

Friendship is not a state of mind, it's an act. It's something you do, it's not about whether you're good or not, it's not a reflection of you, it's a balanced relationship between people. It varies from person to person. But to define friendship loosely one could say that: 

We call those people our friends whom

*We care and are ready to help us during times of distress 
*With whom we share most of our thoughts
*We can always count upon our during an emergency


Friendship and love are not quite the same thing, although there's a lot of love around friendship. We are always sure that our friend will understand why we acted in a certain way. We need not explain anything to our very good friends. The friendship is so deep and the relationship is so intimate, that most of the things are automatically understood by our friends. 

Love 

The primary aspect in love, which makes it stand apart from friendship, is that the two individuals share a certain intimacy, which is greater than friendship

*A primary element in love is the physical element. Friendship has its boundaries defined and no matter how close you are with your friend, it is devoid of physical intimacy. The individuals look at an emotional quotient, which also involves their sexual attachment with each other. This is a vital difference between friendship and love 
*In love, individuals generally have only one partner as against friendship. You may have numerous people whom you could call friends/ good friends but there exists only one person with whom you are in love 
*A loving relationship makes one so much attached to the other, that one gets pained if his/her beloved is hurt! 
*Friendship may last for a life time as does love and relationship but then the time spent by the individuals with each other is high in love / relationship as compared to friendship Life without love is like a year without spring. One could say that love is friendship plus physical closeness.

Tips to Fall in Love

Tips to Fall in Love

Falling in love according to many people is an involuntary experience. But even to experience this experience you need a few things up your sleeve to make it work! Some of the things which could help you realize this experience are: 

Be Yourself

Half the battle's won if you follow this! One could say that this is the primary requirement to experience love. No matter what masquerade you put it won't help you in the long run. The sooner you be your real self the better for you, for it is that trait which an individual would look for to fall in love. "Being you" is what usually gets a women's attention initially anyway so don't forget that. It is things such as natural conversation, coincidences etc. which help people find them their partners. And natural conversations won't be possible if you are not your true self. The things we like about are partners can often be traced to incidents or conversations when we first met them. 

A well defined agenda 

Knowing your purpose behind getting into a relationship would not only be the "key" to your success but must also be "evident" to her. Chances of a positive response would be heightened if the opposite person gets a clear picture of your intentions. And in the process he /she could give their heart to you! Your agenda must be clear and with no games or "hidden agenda". You must be an individual with a plan once you are sure about the compatibility aspect! There are several ways to go about a plan such as You could invite the person to functions with co-workers and relatives. When you introduce your partner to people who are close or important to you, you would induce a sense of inclusion and belonging. You could get her some gifts are in some stuff in jewellery. If you spend your hard earned money on something you picked out for him/her because of admiration, then the partner might accept it without a fight! Engage into conversation that develops the emotional quotient gradually 

Clear communication

The foundation to any relationship is a clear cut communication. And this heightened in the case of love for even the smallest of misunderstandings can cause ripples in people's life. You need to pay heed to the right moments to initiate a conversation or a feedback to ascertain the finer aspects which would help you graduate to the next level. Remember, to keep a balance and pick your battles well, because losing your identity in her completely will allow her to walk all over you and she wont respect that either. Show play your cards carefully and also be explicit at the same time for it is through conversations as these that you could decide on the future of your relationship.

Top Definitions of Love

Top  Definitions of Love

defining an 'ocean'. Every time you take a plunge into the ocean you are bound to find something new and novel. This is because of the human psyche which is different for different individuals. What could be said to apply to one may fail in case of some other individual. But there exist some common threads which bind people in love. Some such tenets which help while defining love are: 

Love is all about accepting

Accepting is an unconditional mutual agreement between the two individuals in a relationship. It could be said that acceptance is about labeling someone as "okay" and having no particular desire to change them. Love means appreciating Appreciation is the next step to acceptance. It is about coming to terms you're your relationship and your partner. True love is about coming to terms with the all the lacuna and accepting a person and relationship in its natural form. A good relationship comes about when you come to terms with your likes about the other person in the relationship. 

Love is wanting and making another person feel good

In the case of true love, both partners try and strive to make things happy for the other. Love is about being unconditional in nature Make love unconditional in nature and only then would it have the best of foundations to becoming a long and lasting relationship. 

Love is about imparting a sense of security to your relationship

So, for a successful relationship, it is always better that you contribute the maximum and make your partner feel secure about the relationship. 

Love is about ignoring the trifle little details

If you come across little things that irritate you about your partner, then the better thing to do would be to talk it over and find a solution rather than make a problem out if it! Also you could see the issues and still love your partner for he / she might be worth much more than a trifle little issue! 

Love is about patience and trust as the foundation

A relationship is all about giving each other time and lending an assurance. Trust is another important element in a relationship as it acts as cement which holds it together during adverse times 

Love is about keeping envy out

In love, at times is better for the 'I' to take a back seat. It is about 'we' and not about 'I'. So for the longevity of your relationship, sink elements such as envy and individual haughtiness! Love is about perseverance In case of true love, mistakes do happen but learning from mistakes is more important. At times, you would need to persevere to make amend to ensure that your love survives the test of times. Love is about hope and being true Love is about being true to yourself and to your partner. It is all about hope, hope that you would be there for your partner during the best and worst of times.

Between The Miles

Between The Miles 

Because existence can become severe
in one day,
just sense me and I'll be there.
In the minds eye,
I'm not so far away.
If you hold out your hand,
in the whispers,
I'll become the zephyr.
and besiege you.
If your eye's upon the stars,
in the crystalline darkness,
I'll become the moon.
And the light shall guide you.
If you rest upon the ground,
in the warmth,
I'll become the grass.
And embrace you.
If you turn outside,
in the wetness,
I'll become the rain.
An upon your forehead, kiss you.
If you free the air,
in the light of day,
I'll become the sun.
And smile for you.

Between the miles-
if you need me.
If you need a friend.
Let me be the friend, I want to be.

TOMORROW

TOMORROW

In my darkest hour...
In my deepest despair...
Will you still care?
Will you be there? 
In my trials and my tribulations?
Through all doubts and frustrations?
In my violence...
And my turbulence? 
Through my fear
And my confessions?
In my anguish...
And my pain? 
Through my joy and sorrow
In the promise of another tomorrow
I will never let you part
For you, are always in my heart. 

FRIENDSHIP SONNET

FRIENDSHIP SONNET 

We had a friendship pure and true,
A friendship time could never cease,
That in sad moments, could renew,
And bring to us release,
We had a friendship, you and I,
That was taken much for granted.
We thought that it would never die,
Much like the seed that we have planted.
And in such haste did we forget,
The love required to grow,
And at our feet it shall be set,
Drowning from feelings never shown.
Maybe we can save this seed before its time is through,
For I've never had a friendship, as the one i have with you.

I have a friend

I have a friend
Who is perfect for me
She listens to all my problems
No matter how dumb they may be 

She likes herself for who she is
And never tries to change
She tells me to be myself 
And that I should never change 

She was shy on the phone
But she would still call
And we would talk for hours
About nothing at all 

We would talk about love and life
And discuss what we wanted to be
She knew just how I felt
And how happy I could be 

She listens to me patiently
But never judges what I do or say
She helped with all my problems
And never went away 

I never once felt judged by her
How much that meant to me
That I could tell her all my dreams
And she would listen to me 

My friend never goes and tells
What is dear to me
She keeps it all bottled up inside
And doesn't spread it like a bee 

I am thankful for that friend of mine
Our friendship will never end
And she will always be there
For she is my best friend

Promise Never To Untie

Promise Never To Untie 

The tender words are spoken
Each body and soul bared
Told secrets over endless days
Often doing more than dared

New world beyond my door
With intrigued and intensity
Now we have shared our hearts
A bond now made it permanently

Facing our days made easier
Despite any type of weather
Each other's heart felt deeply
Both happy we stuck together

It took us little time and effort
The bonding as strong as glue
I now promise never to untie
The strings I have tied with you

The understanding of each other
Breaths to take, we breathe the air
As the relationship interchanges
Knowing our loving hearts are there

Now we are never left on the outside
Lovingly enter each others domain
Smiling. laughing and forever teasing
But forever friends we then became

You Are My Best Friend!

You Are My Best Friend! 

Best friends we are ,
Best friends we'll be,
For always forever,
You and Me!

Longer than a phone call,
Deeper than the sea,
All this belongs to us,
You and Me!

Put it in a bottle,
Never let it free,
keep it in your heart,
You and Me!

I hope you read this poem,
Remember it for me,
Look after it with care,
You and Me!

TOUCH MY HEART

TOUCH MY HEART

Do you know how I feel when you touch my heart
Can you hear me cry inside at your silent embrace
Do you see the fear I keep hidden away
Can you feel the pain I never show 
I can't help but smile when you touch my heart
You can't know the warmth it brings me
I can't bring myself to share the love
You can't see the hope in my soul 
If only I too touch your heart
I only try to ease your fears
If only I could help as much
I only wish I were as true 
Do you know you touch my heart
I love you being in my life
Do you feel the way I do
Do you know you touch my heart 

ARE YOU MY FRIEND?

ARE YOU MY FRIEND?

Will you be there when I'm down,
And catch me when I fall?
Will you hold me when I need
To feel the warmth of your touch? 
Will you laugh when I laugh,
And cry when I cry?
Will you let me rant and rave,
When I need to let off steam? 
Will you discuss those painful things,
That you'd rather not think about?
Like the times we've hurt each other,
And promised would never do so again? 
Will you say the right thing,
When all I've heard is the wrong?
And tell me soothing words,
That make the pain I feel subside? 
Will you understand me when I say,
"I can't see you now, go away"?
Will you come back when I call,
As if nothing happened at all? 
If you'll do these things for me,
And keep smiling all the way.
If you'll be with me through the bad times,
As well as the good. 
Then truly you are my friend,
My pal, my mate and my confidante.
And that means so much to me.
I thank you dearly, for being there,
You, My Friend