Sunday 17 April 2011

Love After Marriage


Love After Marriage 

After marriage it is generally observed that the bond between the individuals strengthen and grown stronger as time goes by. Once when individuals start spending time together, they also understand each other's need and being more committed to each other's feeling and sentiments. Physical intimacy or love comes before marriage but true unconditional love sets in only after marriage. Even years after marriage people continue to love each other and this is love becomes more dense and strong because of their sense of understanding for each other.

A few things which happen to love after marriage are: 

Commitment: 

Love gets enamored in commitment after marriage. It also gets interwoven with trust and empathy and once this begins to happen then true love begins to grown in your relationship. It is then that you begin to gradually make sense of your relationship and figure out that you want to be together forever 

More understanding: 

Any relationship grows when you give time and effort to it. Love after marriage starts only when you think the way your spouse think. You should be his or her mirror image. So unconditional love comes about once you develop a higher sense of understanding of the like and dislikes of your partner. 

Adapting to the culture:

True love happens when you mould yourself according to your partner's interest, family values and background. This could be based on her culture and background from which she comes. True and unconditional real love comes when the partners accede and concede for each other by developing a respect and a broad understanding for each others cultures and background. 

Understanding responsibilities and commitments: 

Love after marriage gets draped in commitments and responsibilities. The degree of commitment increases after marriage. One could say that after individuals gradually align their interests based on their partner's commitments. That apart, you become answerable to your partner for the actions and deeds which in turn induces a sense of responsibilities in the acts of the individuals. This also shows the degree of caring which one individual has for another. These decisions could vary from your personal to your professional sphere. 

Family & Expectations:

after marriage partners begin to have a sense of expectation as far reading a family is concerned. To take the unconditional love to the next pedestal there is a need felt by the couple to have kids. The family bears testimony to the unconditional love between the partners and the trust and faith which they share with each other.




Sex in love marriages are special for it is reminiscent of not only the physical intimacy shared by the couple but the entire experience of coming to together, from falling in love to marriage. 

It has been discovered by Italian scientists that the biochemical state of falling in love is similar to obsessive compulsive disorder. The yearning of couples to be together and learn about each other in intimate detail is overwhelming. They tend to grab every opportunity to show affection and get as close as possible to one another. During this period sex can be very exciting. Difference between casual sex and sex in love 

*There's still some of the mystery of casual sex and also some risk. 

*The difference is that sex is more mutual when we've fallen in love.

*In a love marriage, sex is more than mere physical intimacy.

*It's about giving and sharing ourselves physically and emotionally. As well as sexual satisfaction, we can expect to feel emotional fulfillment 

*Sex in a relationship after love has its own set of positives such as gaining knowledge about the opposite partner. It also helps develop a mutual sense of trust between the partners. Individuals feel more open to try different means to spice up their sexual desires. This would not be possible if the distances are not narrowed between them which could happen only when they trust each other! 

*Casual sex has its own set of advantages and disadvantages. There is a certain sense of risk and mystery involved in it. Individuals barely have any knowledge and understanding of each other and their respective background and what they seek is an urge to satiate their sexual hunger

*There is a certain sense of urgency and the focus is primarily on physical satisfaction of desires. The experience is mechanical in nature and does not involve any love making aspects. Individuals look to get done with the act of making love in a haste and instead of prolonging it and understanding the partner Sex in a relationship which sprouts from love offers an opportunity to the individuals to grow together and become great lovers. It may not be possible to recapture the mystery of casual sex but there's a much higher chance of all-round fulfillment. 

When a relationship matures, sex matures. You now have the advantage of knowing each other well. Fear of rejection is replaced with trust and security. This allows you to move into a stage of experimentation and mutual growth. You can take the time to fine-tune your skills as a lover.

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